How does one resurrect a dead blog? In 2010 and 2011 I tried with a few fizzles. I consciously knew of some reasons. This has never been simply a book blog, but it was devolving into one. My sweetie is never quite as comfortable as I am talking about certain things, and I was feeling hesitant about some topics for his sake. Whenever I come up with a plan, as I attempted to, I invariably lose some kind of impetus. Is that self-sabotage? Or is that feeling the loss of the energy of spontaneity? I know I do well with the duty of deadlines, but I can never seem to trick myself into imposing them on myself. In some ways, I didn't feel like I had much interesting to say.
|My mom, July 2007|
Until it tilted over into my default activity. If I didn't have anything else to do, and even if I did, I read. I keep an eye out for free kindle books, but I buy many as well. So much so that when my kindle stopped working, Amazon replaced it for free even though it was past warranty. I certainly became too sedentary.
Even more recently, when I shared this embarrassing obsession a person at the right time suggested perhaps depression is involved. Often when I mentioned it, people said well if I'm going to have an obsession, reading is a good one to have. This is why I'm embarrassed...no...it's not good when it affects my health, and not when I can't set it aside.
Fortunately, it has been my pattern that once something is conscious and able to be Named, its days are numbered. Even just the thought sequence, 'oh yeah, i'm depressed, that's why this is hard' has lessened the feeling of depression.
Also in there I lost another friend. After nearly 20 years, she broke it off with me. There was conflict, but nothing that couldn't have normally been dealt with and forgiven. There's no divorce when friendships end, but there is heartbreak.
I'm sure there are other things that contributed to the sink into depression, including the reading thing that at first was a comforting salve, along with the lack of activity.
I am not prone to depression, which is perhaps why I couldn't see it. Perhaps I didn't want to see it, as well. One other time in my life I was seriously depressed, heartbroken. The thing that helped me climb out? Some feisty no-strings sex, along with some happy dope. Ahhh, endorphins and dopamine! At that time, meditation did not help, but now, with this creeping malaise, I think it would.
For now, I am seeking those fun endorphins (wink wink). It is already helping. I've started keeping my Dharma School blog again, and here I am, excited to write again, feeling like I might have something interesting to say. I feel the urge to take photos again. I appreciate the friends I still have, and the deepening friendship of a couple in particular with whom I can talk about anything...I mean anything. Perhaps soon I will be able to pick up that daily habit of meditation again. Oh, and since I picked up those extra endorphins, I have actually put the kindle away for hours at a time!